It’s Throwback Thursday and about to be Father’s Day, so I am going to shake up the blog a bit. Usually a post includes a story and a recipe. There is no recipe this time. Just a story about the man who influenced my sense of adventure when it comes to food and who I inherited my sweet tooth from: my Dad.
I have often hoped that when I am no longer around, people will forget all the bad I have done and temper all the great things. My hope is there is just one really good story about me that stands out. One story to be told that sums up who I was.
So for Father’s Day, here is the one story that sums up my Dad, David A. Malone. All the great things and all the bad things just fall to the wayside, and this is the way I remember him.
In third grade, we had a bully. For the sake of anonymity, I will call the bully John Smith. John Smith terrorized everyone including the teachers. We still got paddled in school, but a whipping had zero effect on John Smith. One day I had just come to the end of what I could take. John had slapped everyone in line before music class and since we lined up shortest to tallest, I was next to him in line which meant he saved the hardest slap for the last–ME!
I came home crying and my Dad wanted to know what was going on. I told him “I hate John Smith. He picks on everyone and hits you and slaps you. Then he calls you names. I am just tired of it. He is such a pain.” My Dad asked “well why do you think everyone picks on him?” Still crying I squeezed out, ” well everyone hates him. They make fun of him. He doesn’t have any parents and his clothes never fit. His jeans are all high waders and his toes stick out the end of his shoes because they have holes and are too small. He is just a bully.” Then I explained what had happened that day and that I always got the biggest hit or slap because I was the next to the tallest and had to stand next to him in line. My Dad asked “so he is about your height?” I said “well we are the same but of course he cheats by standing on his tip toes. I don’t understand why that matters. Can’t you do something about him hitting me?” My Dad said “let me think about it and I will figure out what you should do ok?”
A week later John Smith comes to school in new clothes. New shoes. New shirt. New jeans. New attitude. He wasn’t walking hunched over but straight like he owned the world. And smiling. That was the first day I don’t remember him getting in trouble in school. Finally someone asked while we were in line “so John did your grandma buy you some new clothes because those tennis shoes are so cool.” John Smith said “well my granny said she went out on the front porch and there was a box with my name on it and it was full of presents. My granny says it had to be an angel.” And the way John Smith said angel, you knew he believed he had this guardian angel bringing him gifts. I, however, was a bit skeptical.
As soon as I got home, I ran to my Dad who was working at his desk and blurted out the whole story as fast as I could. All about John Smith and the new clothes and angels. I demanded to know what my Dad knew about angels and of course this box of clothes. My Dad stopped what he was doing and took off his glasses (which was always a sign things were about to get serious). He said “Aine listen very carefully and I want you to think about this. I don’t know a thing about angels. But what I do know is that some people have very hard lives and no one may ever say a nice thing to them or give them anything. So when something nice does happen to them it can seem like a miracle…or like an angel did it. There is nothing wrong in them thinking that. What you should think about is that you don’t add to their hard lives by being mean or cruel. You should look for ways to be nice. Now go do your homework, and make sure you are never part of John Smith’s problem again.”
I don’t know what happened to John Smith. I only went to school with him for 5 more grades. But every now and then my Dad would ask if John had outgrown me yet or if he was the same height, and a week later John Smith showed up with new clothes and new shoes. John Smith never got into trouble after that. And as we got older, of course it was uncool for 6th graders to talk about angels and boxes. My Dad never admitted to anything, and I prefer it that way. Nice deeds don’t need boasting about. They are just done…and sometimes they seem like miracles.